Pregnant woman bans husband from taking her to doctor’s appointments after he continually plays chicken with her while she’s getting into the car, he calls her unreasonable for having boundaries: “He’s putting your life at risk”

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    AITAH? for banning my husband from all doctor appointments after he repeatedly messes with me while I'm pregnant?

    "It's just a joke"
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    Hi. So, I'm currently pregnant, about 6 months along, and my husband has been doing this thing every time we go to a doctor appointment. He'll drive me to the appointment, then when I'm about to get in the car, he drives forward a little, then reverses, then drives forward again.
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    He does this a few times, and it always frustrates me. He thinks it's hilarious and says he's just "messing with me". I started to get really frustrated. I'm already dealing with the physical and emotional toll of pregnancy, and this just feels like him poking fun at me when I'm already tired and stressed. I told him it bothers me,
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    but he just brushed it off and said I'm overreacting and that he's "just having fun."
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    We had a big fight about it the other day. I tried to explain how it's making me feel, and he got defensive, saying I need to lighten up and that it's "just a joke." I told him it wasn't funny anymore and it wasn't something I wanted to deal with during my pregnancy. The final straw was when he did it again before a doctor appointment yesterday, and I was just done. I
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    ended up calling my mom to take me instead and told my husband he was banned from all future appointments.
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    Well, now he's furious. He's demanding to be there for the next appointment because it's the one where we'll find out the baby's gender. He says this is a huge moment and I'm being unfair by not letting him come. I told him I need him to respect my boundaries, and this is one of the
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    ways I'm doing that. But he keeps insisting that it's just a silly little thing, and now he's calling me unreasonable for making a big deal out of it. am I overreacting here?
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    Ok_Childhood_9774 • 20h ago NTA, and honest question, has he always been this much of an immature, disrespectful j ? Because it's only going to get worse once your baby arrives. Good luck.
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    Abel Zero ⚫20h ago NTA. He doesn't respect your very reasonable boundary. His emotional intelligence needs some work. Also jokes involving a vehicle and a pregnancy are not funny. That's just scary.
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    Full_Pace7666 • 20h ago This guy is NOT mature enough to be having a kid. NTA
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    panikattaaak • 20h ago dont let him go, tell him it's a boy, not really it's a girl, not it's a boy, but it's actually a girl, even though it's really a boy then tell him to lighten up because it's funny
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    NTA. Why do people date/marry just utter pieces of crp?
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    DrySignificance1055 • 20h ago NTA. A prank is only funny if both parties laugh, otherwise it's buying. He's bu ying you, imagine what he'll do to your kid. Maintain this boundary and, if this kind of behavior is a common thing, think about demanding counseling.
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    JanetInSpain • 20h ago "Just joking" is the rallying cry of every buy on the planet. Your husband is a flaming a hole. That's DANGEROUS for you as a pregnant woman. lunatic. He's He's a "just having fun" AT YOUR
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    EXPENSE. Seriously rethink staying married. You'd be much better off as a single mother than with this mean- spirited, selfish, self-centered, BU__Y of a loser.
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    Please OP do not stay with someone who disrespects you and ENDANGERS you so badly.
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    mfruitfly • 20h ago NTA. It doesn't matter how little or silly something is, when someone asks you to stop, you stop. I have jokes in my family or with my friends that we all find hilarious, but other
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    people do not (think like jump scaring, hiding things, taking food off of plates, so all harmless in general), but they are NOT harmless to people who don't like them. I used to jump scare my sister all the time, and I told that story to my partner, and he said he
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    HATES that stuff, so you know what, I never have done that to him. It is that easy. Your husband has made it clear that him getting a laugh or satisfaction from something is more important than your feelings or comfort.
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    Even now, with consequences for not listening to you, he isn't saying he is sorry or won't do it again, just that you need to get over it, meaning he hasn't learned a thing. You should just tell him: I told you repeatedly I hated you doing this, I told you when it was happening, I made it very
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    clear to you numerous times that I wanted it to stop. You would not listen to me, which show you do not care about my feelings, because I'd never do that to you, and just because you think it is funny and not a big deal, you think I should put up with it. Do you know how disrespectful that is? Apparently you do not,
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    and so I do not want to be in a car with you, and you didn't care at all about my feelings, so why should I now care that your feelings are hurt or that you are going to miss a "big moment?" You didn't care at all that you were making me uncomfortable and stressing me out before doctor's appointments, so why should I
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    give you more courtesy than you are giving me? Do you even appreciate that this "silly thing" to you has deeply hurt my feelings because it shows you do not listen to me? You do not care about my comfort because you couldn't stop this "silly thing" when I was clear I didn't like it? You figure out how to answer my questions,
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    and until then, no, I won't be in the car with you and I don't trust you for the big moments.

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